Men Behaving Dadly: What Dads Want Moms To Know

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Dad Quotes From The Book

Here are some comments from other dads who contibuted to the book:

“I want my wife and other people to view my contribution as a father as more than just a walking bank account. I think our kids benefit from a lot of things I do that go unnoticed.”

“I’m afraid that I won’t meet my wife’s standards and expectations. And also that I will let our son down by not knowing what his needs are.”

“I wish my wife would treat me like an equal partner and not an assistant.”

“I think it would be nice if my wife would let me take care of the baby without giving me specific instructions. If something doesn‘t work out with the baby, I’ll figure it out or call you for help.”

“The more my wife complains about the way I care for our baby. The more I don’t want to do it. It would be nice if she would just let me learn on my own. Nobody followed her around all day pointing out her mistakes. I don’t feel that it’s fair for her to expect me to learn in one hour what she learned in eight hours of caring for our baby.”

“I want to spend time with the kids, but my wife gives me few opportunities to do so. It’s as if she’s hogging all the time with the kids, and that I can only have time with them when she feels it’s appropriate.”

“How can I get a chance to bond with our baby if my wife is hogging all the time with him? And how can our baby learn to bond with me if I hardly get a chance to spend time alone with him?”

“I’d like to see my wife not let the way she is dressed or our child is dressed or what kind of clothes they are wearing define her role as a mother. It’s okay for our kids to not be color-coordinated.”

“I wish my wife would trust and confide in me, relatives, friends, and neighbors more often to help care for the children.”

“I let my kids play in the rain the other day. My wife got upset. I told her that’s what dads do with their kids, they let them play in the rain. She said, ‘But the kids will get sick.’ I told her that was a myth. Kids can’t get sick from playing in the rain.”

“My father was an alcoholic and a real son-of-a-bitch. Hardnosed, tough guy, wouldn’t give me an inch. If I got out of line, I’d be getting a whipping from his belt. I was afraid of my father. I don’t want my child to be afraid of me.”

“My dad wasn’t only a great father, he was a great husband. Yeah, he and my mom had their disagreements and challenges, but he treated my mom with the utmost respect. It’s going to be hard, but I want to be just like him.”

Friday, August 18, 2006

Hey, Dads!


Author Hogan Hilling is finishing up his second book. This one is about dads for moms, and he wants to hear from YOU! The purpose of this blog is to allow you to share your thoughts—your perspective on parenting—with Hogan and other dads . . . and moms will eventually get the message, because Hogan’s latest book is for moms. Here’s a way to share your thoughts with women without risking a fight with your wife!

Do you:

  • Wish your wife would save some time for romance?
  • Feel overwhelmed by pregnancy and childbirth?
  • Feel a lot of financial pressure that your wife seems unaware of?
  • Feel guilty when you don’t spend time with your kids, even if it’s because you’re spending all your time making money?
  • Hope you won’t turn into your own dad?
  • Feel capable of taking care of your kids and the household if your wife would just step back once in awhile?
  • Wish your wife would stop playing Super Mom?
  • Wish you wouldn’t feel so pressured to be a Super Dad?
  • Feel that dads play an important role in their kids’ lives, even though it’s different than what moms do?

If you have concerns, frustrations, and confusion about how your wife parents or about your role as a dad that you can’t seem to discuss openly with your wife, this is a place to discuss them. Hogan personally reads all comments that are posted to this blog.

Just click “Post Comment” below and share your thoughts. Hogan may even publish them in Men Behaving Dadly: What Dads Want Moms to Know about Them!

You can also visit Hogan’s blog for moms at http://www.whatmomswantdadstoknow.blogspot.com/. This is a site for women to share their concerns and frustrations for Hogan’s third book, What Moms Want Dads to Know about Them. Tell your wife!

Below are comments from other dads.

“I let my kids play in the rain the other day. My wife got upset. I told her that’s what dads do with their kids, they let them play in the rain. She said, ‘But the kids will get sick.’ I told her that was a myth. Kids can’t get sick from playing in the rain.”

“My father was an alcoholic and a real son-of-a-bitch. Hardnosed, tough guy, wouldn’t give me an inch. If I got out of line, I’d be getting a whipping from his belt. I was afraid of my father. I don’t want my child to be afraid of me.”

“I want my wife and other people to view my contribution as a father as more than just a walking bank account. I think our kids benefit from a lot of things I do that go unnoticed.”

“My dad wasn’t only a great father, he was a great husband. Yeah, he and my mom had their disagreements and challenges, but he treated my mom with the utmost respect. It’s going to be hard, but I want to be just like him.”